30 year old unemployed loser

Have you considered becoming a music teacher or therapist? If you expand them, you should be able to find a suitable job that will make an income. There has to be something out there for you and while you may find it just by chance, it isnt exactly just going to make its way right into your lap. First of all remember we are not gonna live here forever. Good or Bad, later or Sooner we all gonna die. Whatever the great things you achieve, wha A direct example from my life working in the drug abuse treatment field: I know many social workers with a passion for helping addicts recover from drugs. I am 37 years old and unemployed since last 4 years.

Been back to JA many times, planning on another month-long trip. Its at first a significant blow to the ego, and no advice saying it isnt wont feel right. There are a few truths that you need to know. Hey Dear :) Its my suggestion . Start doing thing which you enjoy . Follow good life style like get up at 6:30 am start walking for 45 min slowly s Fill out a job application at a zoo nearest you.

The thing is that, if youre good, you dont have to. Chances are you will experience unemployment again, so its best to pace yourself and get some good habits under your belt the first time around. I have to admit that some of the answers even blows me so much, as I could never thought like those before, yet, theyre still very valid. One in three adults in the United States has been arrested at least once, a strikingly high number compared with many other countries.Now, a new study reveals one of the implications of that figure: Nearly half of unemployed U.S. men have a criminal conviction by age 35, which makes it harder to get a job, according to an analysis of You complain that people are pushing you into business but quite frankly, people are probably pushing you to get into something that will make money because they see you are not making efforts to become independent. Too skinny. Only you can make your life happen. Knowing your responsibilities and getting on with it. Get a job where you can appeal to peoples better nature. I dont presume you are a religious person, but for example churches employ music directors as do schools. Maybe youd rather barter or only accept gifts or donations for your work. Likewise, dont under apply either. once again, thank you so much for all the advices. Philosophy has always been the bread and butter of rich schmucks with too much time on their hands, and, well, spirituality, lets not get into that or ill be writing this post until the end of the week. Thank you so much. In fact, I am a musician/songwriter/composer, but the thing is: I am a very idealistic kind of musician, and I dont like to lower myself down to just write a HIT song that is cheap, low in messages. Reading all the responses here truly inspired and encouraged me again to see that there are still a lot of GOOD people here in this world, like you all here, who also care enough to craft such well-thought (some even long & very detailed!) You are hurting. For instance: I can answer to question one: Compared to the vastly different question: Seemingly the difference is the answer, yet no, the basic difference is in the two questions: The first question asks a person what their job is, the second question asks how one lives life. Many people dont like themselves; they lose themselves at work. Youre an adult. In general, in families that children are never asked about what they want to do when they grow up dont have a chance to declare or refine their distinctiveness. Most importantly, you should always take time in unemployment as a point of life to heal and grow. As a result they have difficulties branching out on their own, unable to override the way of their family. Your problem is very simple, actually. You lack compelling, inspiring and overarching long-range goals and objectives, broken down into short-term, Youll have 30 more years in the work forcemore than half your life. At 50. The worst thing is perhaps of how I dislike, even hate Money (and Money system) so much. Im sorry for being so blunt but I didnt want to risk making the message blurry by sugar-coating it. If you disdain money, what are you hoping for, that you dont have? But since you seem to hate money you do have a bit of a dilemma there so maybe you could be a ghost writer of really good music and let someone else get the fame and fortune. YOUR LIFE, MOST LIKELY, WILL NOT BE OVER SOON AT 30. THEREFORE, you need to deal with your problems and stop trying to escape with thoughts of deat Learn how to live a compassionate life. Midlife Crisis Signs, Symptoms & Overview, Unemployed at Over 40 Time to Redefine Work. The world does, at times, truly suck, but best way forward is to just accept this and be happy anyway. Animals? So I need to reinforce this lesson to anyone being laid off: Dont take it personally. So from these two points, understand you are in a longer, more complicated process. The balance of reaching out and holding back is a very hard line to maintain. Keep us informed how things work out! But, why would they? In the first place, unless you hate your parents, too, whats wrong with living with them? The more it means you have to switch up what you are doing to be even more yourself. There has been some form of trade system probably as long as humanity has existed. While I agree, you dont quite see the world like most of the others I dont exactly see that as a negative quality, but a positive. You seem to have a lot more issues than just the inability to cut the apron strings. It really helps my situation in an instantnow I know what to do especially Im also an unemployed of 49. Consider These 13 Tips. Dont give fear power or you ensure not being able to get a new job. You say you cant write the music you want because the music industry doesnt want that music right now? I just hate to only talk about making a real difference but not walking the talk, by still leeching on my parents hard works & efforts. Only working there a year and a half. Didnt join an organization or anything like that. You seem to have a lot of worries. Volunteer to help out at various places. Smith, Carpenter, Koch (cook), Mason. I am sure you could find a practical job thats feasible for you to perform, even if it may not come as naturally as your art. I do now have some practical questions, but what I want to ask is: is it better to create a separately brand new topic, or I could just continue here? If you live to ski, then work in such a way so you can ski. Its a blessing actually. Below is a general outline of the 2 hour course: At the start of the unemployment, take a day or two just to freak out a bit, let it all go, and get it out of your system. Heres a guy who lives/has lived on zero dollars for 10 years. Unemployment stirs up fear, and that fear undercuts everything you do. Self-described formerly ugly losers can be so many things: an acne-ridden, obese teenager. However by asking this question it seems like the answer might be no. Saying thats the way it is to the money system is not an ignorance is bliss attitude. So when I stopped liking the job, and it stopped being fun, I left immediately since bullshit is bullshit and is not worth pay in the least. how one has to work during times of midlife. You already know that you want to do music but this whole follow-your-passion thing doesnt fly with your family and friends. I never had the luxury of being so spiritual, philosophical, etc.

one more thing, I love nature, and animals. Life isnt easy.

If thats still too intertwined with money, perhaps you should go live in the woods for a few weeks Seriously. You have to realize how bizarrely convoluted that is. Become a veterinarian. Let me rephrase that. We are always the latter; work is always an activity to support our lives. 18K views 6 years ago. So when being unemployed, they then tear themselves apart. The problem is that you are not acquiring those means on your own. That can be almost impossible, especially when you might have a huge pressure to support others. Anyone can change their life, no matter what age they are. Would love your thoughts, please comment. The more ambivalent kids get pulled by these influences. Western culture hammers into each person to mainly be their work, and so you are working on releasing decades of that unconscious training. Start by being honest, especially when you are asking for help. go march beat to work to timing to industry Orders, Tasks, Working, For others, to others, as others Clamor forward in demand, quotas to complete People presiding to the beat of quotas Each and every person a drum Sounding to rapid-fire consumption everyone the same drum, trying to be unique Buying into uniqueness of sameness in mass-produced colorful tidbits Its economic growth, expanding Building every desire duplicating again and again and again and again carbon dazed dizzy copies Industrial fruit of the loins Overflowing as rubber chickens in every pot Leaving us dying upon diets of more, ever more plastic, a-washed over by peacock worker bots only the drab raven stands out, Ask about caring in-moving in-difference in-pushing towards days end, to earning yet some more cash not cash, but blood, our blood blood type denominations of 10s and 50s This isnt about being a worker Its about life, working to live.

I A and Bd. Thats because spoiling your children doesn't teach them how the world works. I got you by a couple years, but my beliefs, not only in our monetary system, but in life as it is, we share a common ground. He/she can help you work through that and develop plans and mini-goals to keep you on track. Our privacy policy. dont want to spend one day more with them. If you have been recently laid off, facing unemployment or having a bit of a problem finding work, then this article is advice of my own experience and from lessons learned in helping others improve their lives in times of crisis. Realize, most people will feel shitty for a while as they take time to relearn who they are. Dont try to re-do what didnt work before, switch it up a bit now. So are you completely financially dependent on your parents?

I always want to create music that can be at Best Inspiring, touching many hearts out there; but unfortunately, thats not what the Music Industry now wants nowadays. From friends, family, coworkers some just came to me. It sounds to me as if you are tossing out every reason you can possibly think of to avoid taking a job that pays you enough to live on. If a person is a true consumer, who enjoys living life as an expression of consumption, then a persons job should be geared to support consumption. To join, you must be at least Theyre not low on content, theyre not an easy kind of music and yet they sell very well and have a huge following. Youre the only one feeling sorry for you. Keep up with your music as an outlet and continue to play locally at coffeehouses and the like. This is the ultimate in de-humanization, I am not a person. Dont push in any one thing over 75%. Best answer Ive read so far. Being a grown-up sucks. You live in a world that largely does not know you or care about you. The job itself wasnt as important as the reasons for working. Even taking just a day off every now and then can recharge your batteries so youll feel ready to jump back in, refreshed and ready to go. Become a park ranger. Realize that so many people felt that way at one point or another. How is that at all non-practical? Dont worry so much about not getting there. Theres an Asian saying that says Even dogs can recite poetry after 3 years of schooling. If everybody else can do it, why not you? You say you dont like money but lets face it, you need it to live. Im 30 years old and in grad school. I just want to hang with David Letterman a bit. I am sure their dream for life wasnt to still be feeding and housing you because you are too special to lower your standards. Look up Porcupine Tree. Either way, its bound to be an eye-opener. However, how often is the question seriously posed, Why do I work? with an attempt to then try to find a balance between the job and life. We are all authors collaborating a work of Shakespeare made from 6 billion random people. That is not true. As if to make matter worse, I have always been the type of an obedient, obeying kid who held all my feelings inside (introverted) and never voiced it out to my parents,..but last year was the climax, as I simply couldnt hold any longer,..and I even honestly often almost cried whenever Im seeing some (not many though!) I relate to your frustration and I do understand it. Amid raucous peacocks A black feather raven shall become king That too is just a job. Very shortly put, what if some of the things mentioned of what Im interested/want to do, eg: Psychology, Vets, Anthropology, all require another 4 years more of Degree, in which, honestly, Time and Money seems to be the utmost problems/hindrances, as usual/typical ? My rule of thumb is I tell people to explore three pathways (not job types, but larger lifestyle options of how to live/work) at once. @willynills : my heart and soul is deeply touched by your comment.. your post not only give answer, but it has greatly encouraged me, and gave me strength and inspirations needed to continue the path that Ive been walking, and to know that theres nothing wrong with me, thats very strengthening. Think of your Mum and Dad, if you were working youd be able to help them, which is how life is supposed to be. The unemployment rate for people over 55 is at a record high in the United States in the decade of 2010. Week after week, month after month and year after year this same thing happens. Ill volunteer to be the front that @Cruiser suggests. performing, giving lessons, etc.). Many very basic examples exist of this defining of our nature to a job. Good luck. They tend to be satisfied not on the basis of individual success or standoutness, but rather on the basis of belongingness. This means you are probably not in the right job to fit who you are. My nephew was an underachiever, hard driven by his Wharton Business School father. Youve got to go out and look for it, youve got to know what you want to do. Money shouldnt be whats important; money shouldnt be what makes the world go round. Discover how to recreate your life story and move past old trauma. So Patience is key. The average duration of unemployment for workers ages 55 to 64 was 11 months as recently as Do yourself a favor and find someone who can help you. Go forth, I say. You cant burn bridges too. Thats not an ignorance is bliss attitude; thats called being realistic. Realize unemployment is not a reflection of you, rather it represents a point of change. When is someone too old to work and too old to hire? You only see the world you make. Statistics show it takes longer for older workers to re-find new work. At one point of my life I was very much into eastern/Asian philosophies and what not your post in a way made me reminiscent of that (in which, I thank you!).

And, more than likely they always will be. I think you should choose courage in the face of this cold and uncaring world. So pacing yourself is critical in how you find a path through unemployment. My name is Hilary. A little help goes a long way in finding answers. If so, keep going the way you are going. terms and conditions. Remember to change up your conditions also! The so-called realists need to be reminded of the pain it is causing you. There is nothing I can add that would say it any better. To some extent, I can relate to what youre saying, being around the same age. You need to make a choice. I would suggest you find a therapist and keep in contact with them. Theyre losers. Here are my last two pitches: This book. Thanks. from the bottom of my heart, once again: thank you! At age 21 and 24 their rent, car insurance, occasional utility bills, and at times gas and parties are still funded by my father. sometimes I can feel so damn hopeless and feel like Im truly an alien that dont belong in this so-called real world. Its very important to untangle these questions with a change in understanding. No money in it, but the rewards are hugeso are the dangers since we were working in the slums. The idea that you must either do the thing you love most for a career or live in misery is a false dichotomy. Many of us are suffering in this cruel world. Do you go to small shows by independent artists? If you dont belong in your group, it gets rather awkward. but Ive taken your advice as well as many others here, and will work on it,.slowly but sure. This has to be the best definition of a loser. Ask yourself not what others, or American capitalists, think you should do, or useless conversations about the so-called real world, real life, practicality, jobs, bla bla bla. If so, is it okay for them to breach your high principles and for you to live off the fruits of their labour but not for you to support yourself?

Workers 35 Years And Older May Suffer More Job Losses And Chronic Unemployment In The Wake Of COVID-19 I hated it and dropped out in November. I thought Id answer your question to give you some insight from someone close to your age. Well.somebody has to make some money! I got rid of everything and moved to Jamaica where my wife and I spent five years helping people and really making a difference. But unless you invent a time machine, theres fuck-all you can do about it. WebMy daughter's boyfriend: 30 year old Mama's boy who lives at home, works a part-time deadend job, no education, 10 years older than my daughter, subtly manipulative, enjoys his responsibility-free lifestyle. I am lost. After a period of time if nothing is opening up, then often we have to change up where we are, or what we focus upon for work opportunities. If you want to do it, do it. Part of the problem is we think a job is a path to walk down in life. A survey has revealed that, here in the UK, one in three men and one in five women between the ages of 20 and 40 (40!) @longtresses thank you, as well as for referring me to a person with similar dilemma like mine, at least I know Im not alone in feeling this.. Nothing youve said leads me to believe youre cursed or out of hope. Also, I dont think our situations are all that different. Still hoping for the best. I am sorry if this sounds simple. But sitting here at nearly 60, still coping with the depression I had before I was a teen I suggest this: The mos What do you do? @longtresses yes youre correct, Im an Asian. The worst thing is perhaps of how I dislike, even hate Money (and Money system) so much. Opportunities typically present themselves, provided a person opens their awareness to the larger world while beginning the process of understanding their nature. Its not too late to change your life, if you are unhappy with it, though you may have to go back to school. Its the passion TO DO that you need. Nature? If possible or if inspired, use this moment of life as a chance to shift your life into new habits and patterns. I know many people who are doing what they love now in their new work, because of the energy given to them from being laid off. A few weeks in, you will need to take some time off to heal for yourself. Quite a bit of the above advice is geared to help a person make it through a longer duration of an unemployment situation. Im in the same situation. I dont know you, and I dont intend to offend. You have a great deal to give the world honey, all you need to do is find something to make a career out of that makes you happy. Do so in ways that minimize money use; also, get creative in how you do use money. I came up with this exercise for myself when I re-invented my life. Understand part of the process is PATIENCE, to give yourself time to re-adjust to yourself. or Ill probably go into a much worse condition. Theres such a thing as working [even in the family business] by day and doing music at night, solo or with a band. Strength, patience and an open mind (experiment and evolve) in your path ahead Imbee! My folks never asked me what I wanted to do or be when I grew up. Most people in our generation were told by our parents and college admission offices, Do what you love. However, they forgot to add that doing what we love will not necessarily put a roof over our heads. Get over it, or decide that you cant get over it and be happy with whats going on. 2005-2023 Oneriver All rights reserved. Nora Jones as one prime example write beautiful, touching and inspirational music and it makes her truckloads of cash. I started working when I was 18 years old, and there were many years while raising 3 children by myself that I worked 2 and 3 jobs to keep afloat. When I graduated high school in 1999, I didnt want to go to university, but I had already deferred my scholarship, so I pretty much had to. Here is someone (a jelly even!) I will be 40 soon, in a few days to be exact, but I feel as if I havent done anything with my life. But my point is this: I am basically now sort of feeling damn lost and confused as: 1. if I do still have Hope for the future? Showing this is something which isnt unique to the modern age. 1. You need to do whatever you need to do. It can be used and misused. I will next walk you through looking at why you work. If your parents are supporting you, it just seems to me that at 28 or 30 it is time to lower your own high standards and to find a way to look after yourself. Take the time to clean up, repair, or catch up on anything you were behind in life for other reasons. Other hint: Theyre psychology and astronomy. @Dutchess_III I saw in his previous posts that hes Asian. I always want to create music that can be at Best Inspiring, touching many hearts out there; but unfortunately, thats not what the Music Industry now wants nowadays. Then DO IT! If you havent sold a glass of lemonade in your life or daydreamed of running your own, say, trendy restaurant, why would you consider business?

I am 40 years old. This is often true unless, of course, you love your job, then you should stay. You are not insane for avoiding the perversions of the business world. I have been divorced twice, dont have kids yet but still want to have them. Now stand up and go to work. Assuming youre willing to study and get a degree. Whatever you do, though, dont vote for politicians who plan to tax the rich and then give that money to you. Hmmm, I can sense your confusion and I am sorry for that but I think you are making excuses for why your life isnt what you want it to be. Theres no hope for you. all they do is to rake as much profits, money, satisfying themselves, and destroying everything else! I know of several households and co-ops where life is still lived that way. You dont like details, neither do I but I have a job that allows me to be creative and look at the big picture as well as the details and I am sure there are many, many big picture people who are spiritual and artistic who are also managing to support themselves. At first, I went with the flow: having a career which would have been labeled an ideal lifestyle as shown thru parents, friends, the educational system, and general culture. hugs xx. I continue to succeed at my external focuses in life, but dont have any success at building any kind of emotional and loving connection with a romantic partner. Use it as an opportunity to step sideways and then literally into unexpected paths. hate my kids and family by now. Its practical. Some people dont like to work; they only work to survive. Thats their thing then, isnt it?

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